- Tell me, Uranus, how could I get a lasting and functional love relationship? I asked.
- There is no problem whatsoever in getting yourself a relationship, for it is only about what kind of a relationship you want, Uranus said. - Do you want a relationship that will support your growth, thus balancing your life, or a relationship that causes problems in your life and pulls you back to the past? These are two opposites and in between them, there are many forms. The most important thing is to internalize what you really want from a relationship, for what you really want, you will get. Be aware of this law of energy which is inviolate. What you bear inside consciously or unconsciously, that which is living strong inside you, what the true state is within you, always attract similar things to you. In this way a person is always interested in those people around him in whose energy field the same state is living in some form. If anxiety lives in you and there is no balance therefore, you attract imbalance. Then you are interested in people around you who have the same condition in one form or another. When two similar states like this meet, there is no lasting quality or continuity since they burn out each other gradually. In this way the relationship falls as a result of its own absurdity, resulting in a state where both end up being twice as anxious. When two unbalanced and anxious people meet, only the same energy is generated and it is doubled. In this way it reinforces itself, and anxiety and imbalance increase. Problems and arguments arise as well as all kinds of states which increase even more imbalance and anxiety in people.
Then the relationship is like a hamster wheel: they run faster and faster, or the energy in them gets stronger, anxiety and imbalance increase and more quarrels and more problems are created. They, in their part, bring more anxiety and imbalance, and in this way the state is like a hamster that speeds up its pace until it collapses exhausted. In a relationship this means that when problems and imbalance increase in both, a state - the extreme - is finally generated and it is unsupportable. Then the relationship ends and both are left in their own state. The only thing that matters is that you are aware of what you want. Do you want a relationship like this or do you want a relationship that generates balance and helps you grow?
- A relationship that creates balance and growth, please!
- If there is balance within you and you are in yourself, meaning you are aware of your feelings and thoughts, then you are aware of yourself. Your emotions and thoughts are no longer a threat to you, they are your friends. You are your best friend and you attract someone who has the same state within. When two people like these meet, this balance is multiplied. In the same manner, a state where they help each other and support each other in their own growth is generated. So this state is multiplied, just like anxiety and imbalance. When growth and balance increase and they serve and help each other, the interaction generates balance and a feeling of basic security. Even though there are always problems, new issues and new situations in the life of man, this relationship will not bring imbalance to it. It only helps them both to face and clarify the new states and situations in a way that serves them both. So a feeling of insecurity is not generated in any form or in any situation even if people disagree. Then, in the consciousness of them both, there is awareness that this person is very important to me. There is awareness that this relationship will last, so it is possible to disagree. Your own choice is crucial to your life because you have within you all knowledge, all truth and all love. We are all fundamentally alike.
The same foundation is also everywhere in the universe, so we are a part of this entirety. Only the fact that we are individuals or are becoming individuals, gives us the freedom to choose in our own life, to use and to live what we choose. If we do not choose consciously, we let others choose for us and we do not utilize our life. By being aware of your own aspirations, you build your own life and you choose a secure relationship in your life.